Understandably, there are different ways of showing displeasure and dissent. Different persons adopt different methods. The most common way of expressing dissent, we find, is shouting at the other person at the highest pitch of voice possible. This often is the way of expressing dissent instantaneously and is seen between persons of varying authority i.e., between an employer and the employed, a father and his son, a mother and her daughter or daughter-in-law etc. This method may work between them, but it will, very often found, fail to work between persons of equal authority, eg., husband and wife.
The relationship that binds a husband and wife is different. Between them, no one is higher…both are equal. Situations of expressing displeasure or for that matter dissent are to be handled with great care that the relationship should not be jeopardized as a result. Both should understand this and behave.
This gaathaa SaptaSati woman appears to have understood the importance of showing her displeasure in the most sublime way possible i.e., silence. How she was hurt by her husband is not known, but it is evident that she was hurt to the point that the hurt was very deep. She expressed her displeasure of being hurt in such a manner and in the most profound way possible i.e., by observing absolute silence. The instance and the exemplary way of her behavior was immortalized in this gaatha:
‘di ahaM khuDakki aE tiiE kaauuNa geahavaavaaram
guruE vi maNNu dukKea bharamoe paa aMtasuttassa.’ ( 3-25)
ది అహం ఖుడక్కి అఏ తీఏ కాఊణ గేహవావారమ్
గురుఏ వి మణ్ణు దుక్ఖే భరమో పా అంతసుత్తస్స.
All day long, she bore the pain without uttering a word, doing daily chores;
Night fell, pain still unabated; she slept at my feet, still uttering not a word.
The most heartening thing about this gaatha is that the mood set out in this gaatha is of reflective in nature i.e., the husband was remembering the instance and the way his wife behaved to make her displeasure known to him in the most effective way possible. Evidently, he was repenting for his deed of hurting his wife and at the same time feeling great about his wife, for the way she adopted herself to the grim situation and behaved.